Internet Dating Tips - Find Your Knight...With a Mouse!You're probably thinking, this can't be that hard. Everybody tries internet dating these days. Well, if this is your first time, here are some internet dating tips that are worth a try. Is This Thing On?So, you've posted a great profile on the internet dating site of your choice. Now what? Within a few days, you're bound to get some winks, flirts and emails from interested people. You'll have the options of winking or writing back to each one. Don't waste your time winking back. Sending a wink in return says nothing about you, and doesn't get the ball rolling. If you'd like to know more about someone who winks at you, write them an email.How Does This Work?Girls, I'm old-fashioned enough to believe that guys should still do the asking out. However, that doesn't mean you can't make the first move when you see someone cute online. You will always get more out of online dating if you actively search for matches instead of passively waiting for them to find you. Make your subscription work for you go out and find the guys you're looking for. This is where you can really put some thought into the most important qualities in a man...to you.Caution girlfriends: try to be open-minded here. If you narrow your search to guys with green eyes, blond hair, 6'5 or taller, 1 kid or less, and must be a doctor, you're selling yourself short. There are plenty of great guys out there who do not fit the specific mold you've cooked up in your head. It helps to make a mental list of maybe three things that are important to you, and a couple things that are deal breakers for you. (For example: I won't date smokers- total deal breaker.) When you find a guy with potential, writing an email is the best choice. Seriously, don't waste your time on the winks or flirts. Those are for mere survivors, and you're a thriver. A wink says I checked out your profile, but I'm too lame to actually say 'Hi, I think I like you'. Some guys don't even look at those. They're too busy reading the emails that assertive girls wrote them. Don't worry about rejection here. Just go for it; the answer is always no if you don't try. Besides, if a guy ignores you, you'll be too busy talking to the other 10 who didn't. First, take the time to actually read their profile- don't stop at just their profile picture. Still like what you see? Ok, now think of one or two questions related to what they wrote. Try to write to them as if you were meeting them at a party. If you met someone in person, you wouldn't walk up to them and say Hey, I liked your profile. Try to keep it real. If you noticed that he, too enjoys underwater basket weaving, this would be the time to ask him about his favorite pattern...he he. Also, keep it short and sweet. This is not the time to tell your life story. You just need to write enough to get a response. After you've done the email and instant message thing a few times, you gotta graduate to phone or in person conversations. You're not looking for pen pals, right? There are people who seemingly want to make online dating into a career. I don't know about you, but as a single mom I just don't have time to write emails back and forth to the same guy for weeks or months on end. If he doesn't really want to meet in person, there's usually a reason why. If you encounter someone like this, move on sister. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Now This is Getting Good...Here's the really fun part where you actually get to meet guys. When you're meeting someone from the online world for the first time, you gotta take a few precautions. Don't let this scare you; most people you meet will be totally harmless. Here are a few internet dating tips and tricks for the all-important first date:1. First, make sure you meet in a public place and you give at least one friend the lowdown on where you'll be. 2. Keep the first meeting short- an hour or so is great. Tell your date you have plans afterwards, so you've got an exit strategy. 3. Never, ever go to his house or invite him to yours on the first date. This should be your cardinal rule. 4. Keep it casual, like meeting at a coffee shop. You can easily go dutch, and if he picks up the tab, you don't have to feel guilty about it- it's just coffee. 5. If you're drinking, take it easy. One or two drinks should be your limit. Don't wear beer goggles on the first date, girls. 6. Most importantly- just have fun. Even if you realize right away that he's not what you had hoped, you can still have a good time getting to know a little about him.
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